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[charmer_filey]

Hi to everyone Sometime ago i posted a thread about A.D.H.D and had some fantastic feedback and appreciated the comments posted... sadly since my post me and my son have had to seperate as he continued to assault me and i also went went thru a year and a half of mental abuse aswell...

Within this period i obtained an admission of neglect on the part of social services in black and white !!!! a rare thing to get i might add

but even after that they still failed to offer any real help for me and my son sadly...
It is even harder now for him as he has turned 18yrs old now(mentally about a 12yr old)and so he has been passed onto adult services which is even worse than child services....

The last time i was assaulted my son strangled to the point where i was losing consiousness(excuse spelling) yet they still didn't see our case as a matter of urgency

I wonder if services will ever change for the better and maybe it's time huge amount of pressure was put on goverment to change this !!!

as its people getting paid £30,000 that are making these decisions and destroying families that were once very close...

[alfie09]

sorry to hear what has happened to you and your son through neglect by our so called social system, i for one cannot comment or give any advice as i would not know where to start, but just to say keep your chin up and keep fighting for your cause, i hope things get a little better for you m8

[charmer_filey]

Thank you mate for your comments they are greatly appreciated,sadly its too late for me and my son but i will continue to fight this cause until goverment change things

[stanmarsh14]

f*****g hell mate, it defies belief that the local social services have treated you & your son like this, admit to being in the wrong, & yet do naff all to assist.

I myself have had working experience in this field with my own mother, who for over 20 years has had severe mental health problems, coupled with physical health issues, & now I'm a full-time carer for her.

Unfortunately about two years back, Derbyshire Social Services pulled ALL support for myself & mum due down to cost & not enough staff, something which deeply upset both mum, & her care manager from Social Services who I will say now had been an absolutely fantastic bloke, & even came to me once when his own health & then mental health took a battering... something I would deffo do for the guy... he had dug both of us out of many holes before.

Unfortunately as my mum's shrink has said (Another fantastic bloke from Eastern Europe, but only a locum) funding for mental health services is at an all time low, due mostly the cash going to fund crap like NHS Direct, which has left the guy frustrated as hell at being so restricted with doing stuff, but wanting to do so much more for folk.

I will say this, you are not alone here in so many aspects, but I am wondering if you have been offered any assistance at all from your local NHS Mental Health team? If not, get onto your GP & start twisting a few arms, even if it's just for your own well being.

Also two other places you can seek help from:

Carers UK : Information <----- should have a local branch near you, which should offer help and advice.

Mind (National Association for Mental Health) <----- National Mental Health charity who are a good source of information.

Also if you want, give me a PM here, even if it's just for a chat.

[Jimmy_mac]

Hi Charmer, I remember the original thread well myself.

Really sorry that things haven't worked out for you so far, I cant even begin to imagine what its like to have your son taken away from you like that and I hope I never have to go through the troubles you have.

I know that many people tried to offer advice previously and some may have helped at least but the end result was not the one that we would all have liked to have heard sadly. If there is anything that any of us here can help with then dont hesitate to ask. Or if you just feel like throwing all your frustrations down on here (sometimes being able to do things like this almost anonymously can be a big relief) then please do so

I hope things improve for you sir

[charmer_filey]

This is so true about funding !!! this is what we came up against everytime "we dont have enough money for the service you require" or "we are short staffed"

My son is awaiting an assesment by the mental health team though im not holding my breath !!

My mental health has just started to be restored after years of abuse but i know one thing i intend to fight this cause until i get the changes that many 1000's of family's so desperatly need !!!

[charmer_filey]

Thanks mate for your comments you are all a great crowd here and have helped me thru some tuff times and for that i am eternaly grateful

Like i said in the quick reply above , i intend to fight this cause untill goverment give more funding that 1000's of families urgently need

[carlosgee]

this country is naff, your case is really bad and i can only wish it could have been sorted by our services, which are obviously anti-social services. Incidents of child abuse, and mental health cases are being swept under the carpet and this nation stinks my friend, it makes you ashmed to be british. I can only hope for something to happen where you and your son are reunited, i am sorry for everyone in this damn country that has to put up with crap from the govenrment.