hold the bells

A guy I work with at our head office in the EU was off work a couple of Monday’s ago as his little girl had the standard 2-year-old fever that all kids get, I have a son the same age so we are always swapping tales of kids being imps and funny.

I know this as he had a text exchange with another workmate  about this and the fact, he might not make dinner we were all going to on Tuesday

Later that Monday he took her to A&E and she died, he is back at work now but I don’t know what happened and I’m unlikely to ask him any time soon.

So, I guess for me an all of you with kids the lesson around Shit thing number one, is that kids can’t be too much work ever. My family has gone to Dublin for 5 days, leaving me at home to do some jobs, less than 30 minutes after I was home after dropping them off at Heathrow the silence in the house was deafening, so god knows what his days are like.

It made me very sad for him, I had a text with him today as he needed me to do some work for him, I had to wait 5 minutes to reply as I wanted to get my shit together and be business-like and not bring up his daughter via over emotion, first time I’ve considered a text response this long in my life. So, we did the chat I was sort of pleased I hadn’t made a twat of myself and made his situation worse

Then a few hours later I get a call about another work mate, who I have known 16 years. He has a brain tumor, which I knew to be none cancerous, but had been a harder operation than first thought, Now turns out it was cancer and nothing more can be done, he is in the hospital and is not expected to see the month out,

So enjoy your kids and your friends as much as you can, so easy to get diverted from the great presence they are by the bullshit of day to day existence