hi newbie here,also hate flying but been with a good few coach companies to spain,personally i would reccomend ww*.ferriscoachholidays.co.uk
or ww*.siestaholidays.co.uk/ i went in september last year with my 4 year old daughter and my wife and it cost £630 for a 3 star hotel,,,,,,not bad saving,,,,if you go by ferriss book your holiday and pay extra for the platinum coaches as the seats recline more and you get more legroom